The Importance Of Making The Children To Do House Chores

Children Doing The House ChoresMany parents often get frustrated because they cannot make their children help them with the house chores such as taking out the garbage, clean up their room or bring their clothes to the laundry. And parents finally end up doing the house chores by themselves.

Making the children help their parents doing the house chores is more than just simply make the house clean and in order, but also help to teach the children about responsibility in their life.

The life lessons that the kids studied in the homes are not just for the practical uses only such as the house chores that mentioned above. But, it is also include the intangible advantages also like; the important of cooperation in their life, the feeling of satisfaction when completing a task, the ability learning the value in following a schedule and their task.

Children need to experience those life lessons in to help them to handle with the obstacles and challenges that they will encounter in their life.

The ability to make a good judgment, empathy for other people and independence in many areas of their family life will much easier to planted when the children in pre-school years, although it can also be taught at older age.

These lessons could be implemented until the children leave their home. It is the parent’s duty to teach their children with these values, so the children can become contributing citizens. Schools, churches, Girl Scouts and other youth organizations can help as the supplement for the lessons that the children got in their own home.

A positive personality depends on the positive life experiences. It will better if the positive experiences occur in a supportive and safe home environment. The more success a child experiences, the better they will feels about themselves and their place in the world, and the more courage they have to take on new and different things.

When parents encourage their children to participate for the good of the family, parent will give the children the gift of courage to take risks and make mistakes and learn from it. Parents can focus to strengthen the children skill and ability order to build their self-worth feeling.

As parents teach their kids to do family chores, that is mean the whole family wins. Children will improve their self-esteem, independence and a sense of belonging. Parents will able to reduce their housekeeping duties, and they able to feel more confident for their kids and their ability to in the real world.

Finding The Reason Behind The Children Misbehavior

In every children misbehavior, there is always good explanations that become the reason of such behavior. This misbehavior will keep on continue until the reason is identify and fulfill. Mostly this behavior is happen because children still confuse and do not know the proper way to expressing, and fulfill or satisfy their intention.

As parents it is your duty to find out and identifies the intention reason behind the misbehavior. First you need to trust that your children are really have a good reason on their behavior. This will help in the process of identifying your children behavior reason. It also make the children more comfortable and trust you more. If you do not trust there is good reason behind your children behavior you can judge your children to easily. This will makes you less trustworthy for the children, and you will not be able to find the true reason behind your children misbehavior.

Then you also need to believe that communicate to your children are the way to get response from your children. If you do not satisfy with the response you should be willing to alter the way you communicate with your children until you can identify the real reason. Here are some basic methods to make communication with your children.

Put your self as your children friend or an ally  

Make proper and positive communication between you and your children. Put your self as an ally and gain their trust so your children can open up to you. To acquire this, it is important that you do not criticize, judge, blame and make negative remark or intention during communication process. Make them believe that you see them as good children, and have the good reason to do such behavior and you are on their side to help them. If you do not do that they will see you as enemy and become defensive, retreat and clam up or even to counter attack. If that happen it is impossible to find the true reason of their misbehavior.

Searching their good reason 

After you gain their trust and they start to open up with you then you can start to search their positive reason. Try to refrain yourself from using the word “why”, instead it will be better that you use a phrase such as “what/how is your behaviors do for you?”.  Usually they will reveal some positive intentions inside their answer, you need to be sharp to catch these intention inside their communication. Keep asking “what/how is your behaviors do for you?”  inside the communication until you reach the core of their reason and purpose.

Verify the reason back  

After you can grasp the true reason you can verify the reason back to the children. Therefore you will be sure the true intention behind the children misbehavior.

Fulfill the reason with proper behavior 

After you identify the positive reason behind the misbehavior, then you must consider that is the true reason. Then tell them that you respect them for actually trying to achieve something that is positive and offer them your help as much as you can. Tell them that the fact this reason is the proof that they actually is a good and kind person compare to the negative behavior. Help him to find a proper behavior that is reflecting their good and kindness to satisfy and fulfill their positive intention.

Children Self Esteem

Children Self EsteemAs parent, you may ever battling with child self esteem. Child self esteem is quite fragile, especially when they are entering the adolescence stage. This is because they become more aware about their physical appearances, they usually identify their existence on how are they appear in front of their friend and other people. Failing in appearance may make them become embarrass and humiliated.


Parent’s opinion

At this point, usually the parent’s opinion might have become less meaningful in the children eyes. The reassuring word of encouragement or support is no longer enough to make them comfortable and confident as when they are just little children. Then you probably wondering what can you do to improve their child self esteem in a healthy manners and behavior.

Improving the child self esteem

To improve the child self esteem, an experience psychologist Christina McCann from New York State, suggesting the parents to follow these tips;

Accepting their child appearances just what they are. Avoid being critical regardless their outside appearance such as their fashion styles, or dyeing their hair.

Support their best side and express it vocally.

Try to spend one on one quality time as much as they can.

If you live separately, parent should establish communication as much as they can by sending them mails or by phone.


When adolescence child or teens self esteem is damage, it can make them fall into depression. This situation can be indicate by these symptoms; lack of energy, hard to concentrate, irregular sleeping patterns, behavior changes, especially towards their parents and become uncontrollable and annoying. And if this behavior continues, you should consider to visiting specialist that can handle teenage or adolescence child problems.