In a family, sometime a separation is inevitable. This can happen either because of a divorce or death. It is always a sad thing to see the children must separated from the parent that they love. Fortunately many of those single families are lucky enough to be able finding other partner to form a new relationship and start a new family. And sometimes parenting to unify the children that come from mix family is challenging task and require hard work from the parent. This is because the children may raised with different tradition, attitude and discipline.
Bonding with your spouse children
Getting close to your spouse children is the important key in harmonizing your mix or blended family. Unfortunately sometime it is not easy to get close and bonding your spouse children. The children naturally will are more attaching to their natural parents. Many of them even reject their parent new spouse as they feel you are trying to replace their own parent.
You need to communicate and make your spouse children understand that you are not a replacement for their parent. Ask your spouse help to get closer to his or her children. Make a time to bonding and spending time with your spouse children with and without your spouse. This can help building a communication and relationship between your spouse children and you as their new parent, by letting both parties knows and understand about each other little by little. This will take time, patience and communication to get close to your spouse children.
Setting up the common discipline
Both parents must setting up the common rules and discipline for the children from both family. Therefore there are no children that feel disadvantages and unfair from the rules. To setting up the rules both parent must respect to their new spouse previous family dynamics, rules and tradition, then discuss the rules that can be applied to their children.
Both parents must commit to apply those rules accordingly. For transition period before the children are close to their new parent, parent can let their spouse to discipline their own children.
Step parenting is not a simple task; it will need your patience and determination. But with your compassion, love and your understanding you may be able to gain their respect and able to build a harmonize family with your blended family.