Many parents are experience many difficulties in establishing a communication between them and their children especially when there are confrontation with their children. This condition is often happen especially when their children are at teenager stage. Therefore to create healthy communication between parents and their children, it will be better to look it from the children or teens perspectives.
Communication with teenagers
Mostly children and teens needs proper condition in order that they can comfortably open up and communicate their issues with their parents or guardians. Therefore to create and support the proper condition and environment that can stimulate teenager to open up and communicate comfortably, parents need to consider their communication method.
This aspect is very important especially when the parents are angry. Loosing the temper and emotion can hindering the relation between parents and their teenager. Negative reaction such as shouting, harsh and sarcastic action can provoke their rebellious behavior. It can make them become defensive and counter attack their parent negative reaction. In the end there will be not conclusion and solution of the problem, the parents will loose their children trust and loose the communication with their children.
There are few thing that parents need to avoid while communicate with their teenager.
Stop comparing between yourself and your teenagers when you are at their age.
Although they are your teenager, they are different individual from yourself. Both of you live and grew in different condition, situation, time and ages. Therefore it is not fair to demand your teenager to act and behave just like the way you behave. That is because they have their own condition and situation that are different from when the time you are grow up.
Stop playing the authority card
By using authority card such as the one who makes the money or the one who’s in charge, parents will become absolute ruler. Teenager must completely obey what their parents told them without being able to speak of their opinion. Healthy communications require two ways communication between parents and their teenager. They both must value and pay attention on their opponent feedbacks and opinion, even when the both side are angry.
By doing this, the parents will set up a good example and showing to their teenager that they are serious in communicating with their teenager to create the good solution to their teenager issues. The teenager will be able to trust their parents more, and parent will be able to establish foundation for a good and healthy communication with their teenager for the future.