As adults, sometime we commits a necessary lie or often called as white lie. This action is not always a favorite choice since it will leave guilty feeling in our hearts. But when parents find out that their children are lying, this behavior will immediately turn on the alarm in every parent’s head.
No parents wants their children to grew up as a liar, but before parent get angry because their children are lying and want them to tell the truth, they need to know about the kid’s age and the reasons why the children are telling the lies.
Researchers found out that young children at the age group of 2 to 3 year old often cannot understand the difference between truth and the result of imagination. The boundary between reality and fiction often become blurred at this group of age.
The lies that children are telling often a way to achieve something that they cannot achieve, or to get away from something that they cannot. If the parents keep insisting their child to speak of the truth, they often do not get the truth at all. Therefore, it will be much better to concentrate to the feeling of injured party or the situation that happening because of the children action rather than demanding full honesty to the children that are in this group of age.
At the group of preschool age, most kids already comprehend about the reality. Most of the time, the lies that the children do are as part of their play and game, sometime it is part of their wishful thinking and sometime it is a result of their imagination.
At this group of age, lying often become a method of processing new ideas for children.
At the school age, children become aware about the term of white lie and know how to do it. Children learn about the method of lying for their own advantages or to prevent hurting other people feelings.
At this group of age children usually lie to prevent other people especially their parent from getting disappointed to them or because they feel they being ask to do more than their capabilities.
Parents should able to recognize the reason for the lying and use it as consideration to make the right decision. Providing your kids to help them do their chores or work can solve the situation and prevent them from having to make lies to the parents.
In the group of age 8 – 12 year, children would still have difficulties with the area between the truth and imagination. At this age, children might begin to makes up things that they usually share with their parent when they are younger.
This progress is quite normal and become part from the process of growing up. At this stage rather than forcing the children to tell the truth, it will be better if parents show their disappointment or displeasure to the children about their lying behavior.
But if the lying keep continue to chronic lying, parents must seek professional help to solve this behavior. This situation happen because children have learn it is more convenient to tell lie and lying become the easiest method to achieve what they want.
Finally, if parents do not want your kids growing up to become constant liar, parents must set up themselves as good example of honest person. When children see that their parent is lying no matter how small is, it will leave impression to the children that lying is acceptable and a normal thing to do.