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To Find a Babysitter

The first time you have your new baby, you would hardly think about leaving them. But when the baby grows and both of you have other matter to attend to, you will have to consider to finding a babysitter. Although asking to a stranger to babysit your child can seem frightening, here are some tips for you to seek a good babysitter.

First thing is to search an acquaintance, maybe some relatives. Unless, if you live far from your family. The next step is by asking to your friends, other moms and co-workers. And just by spreading the news that you’re searching a babysitter, you’ll get a lot of answer for your request. Your child’s age is also helping you to determine the babysitter that you need. A younger child will require much experienced sitter.

When you have chosen some candidates, you need to ask a few questions to the babysitter regarding their competence. Ask some usual and not-so usual question to see how they would react. Ask their references and confirm it thoroughly. If your candidates seem unwilling to give it, you should be cautions. When you have narrowed your candidate test it by set up a trail babysitting time. Let your kids and the babysitter interact without you. But keep checking them in from time to time to see their interaction.

Finally, when you have decided the babysitter you need to know about the babysitter fee. Ask other moms about the rate. You might want to consider paying more for babysitting for a baby or more than one kids.

Improving Your Child’s Heart Health

Improving Your Child's Heart HealthCardiovascular endurance is one of the five health-related components of physical fitness. It refers to the ability of the heart and lungs to supply oxygen and nutrients to the muscles. In simple terms, someone with great cardiovascular endurance has a strong heart – one that actually grows in size and pumps more blood with every beat, resulting in a lower heart rate.

As you can imagine, this can only happen when an individual regularly exercises. Typically, it’s aerobic exercise that improves cardiovascular fitness – but, where children are concerned, we can’t think of “aerobics” in the same way that we do for adults.

For one thing, children won’t exercise for the same reason we adults do. Most adults exercise for the sake of their health or because they want to look good. Children should never be encouraged to exercise because it will make them look good, even if obesity is an issue. Emphasizing exercise for the sake of appearance places the wrong value on physical activity – and appearance!

As far as health benefits are concerned, unlike adults, young children live very much in the present moment. They’re simply incapable of projecting themselves into the future. So you can’t expect your toddler, preschooler, or even your first-or second-grader to exercise because it will ensure he’s healthier at age 40 or he’ll look and feel better at 60.

Even if you explain that exercise will make him healthier right now, you’re not likely to get an enthusiastic response. These are all adult concepts – adult goals – beyond a child’s cognitive and emotional capabilities.

Additionally, young children are not made for long, uninterrupted periods of strenuous activity. So expecting them to jog, walk briskly, or follow an exercise video for 20 to 30 minutes, particularly before the age of six, is not only unrealistic but could be damaging. At the very least, it can ensure an intense dislike of physical activity that results in a lifelong devotion to being a couch potato.

Rather, when we consider developmentally appropriate aerobic activities for children, we should be thinking along the lines of moderate to vigorous play and movement. Physical activity that’s moderately intense will increase the heart rate and breathing somewhat, while vigorous-intensity movement takes a lot more effort and will result in a noticeable increase in breathing. The latter can usually be sustained for a maximum of 20 to 30 minutes.

Riding a bicycle, swimming, walking, marching, chasing bubbles, playing tag, dancing to moderate- to fast-paced music, and jumping rope all fall under the heading of moderate- to vigorous-intensity exercise for children. In other words, it’s anything that keeps the child moving continuously, sometimes strenuously and sometimes less so.

The American Heart Association assures us we needn’t be concerned with target heart rates in children. Yes, we want to get their hearts pumping on a daily basis; but, whenever possible, we want to ensure it happens naturally. If you’ve noticed your child is definitely not getting enough exercise to improve cardiovascular fitness, joining in on the play yourself may be all that’s needed.

Start slowly, gradually increasing the length of time you maintain movement (by a few minutes a week) and stopping immediately should your child experience any discomfort. Before you know it, daily or almost-daily, moderate- to vigorous-intensity activity will be a way of life.

Helping Your Teens to Get Through Their Anger Phase

Teens AngerHormones in the teenager are raging out of control and to have a teenager who seems always to be in control is not necessarily good. In the seventies, it was common for parents to have a heavy handed approach to their children. If their teen showed anger in a particular situation it was a given that the parent would admonish them to “control yourself” or “turn that frown upside-down” as if the teen could turn the feeling on and off like a faucet.

To make matters worse, parents who were fortunate enough to get their children to talk, would then belittle them with statements like “that’s nothing, when I was your age…” This wasn’t then, nor is it now, anything that a teenager wants to hear. Knowing what causes teens to be angry is one thing, but we need to learn how our teen expresses their anger early in its development.

Some teens join violent sports teams or roughhouse with friends. This lets the aggression out in a safe way if it is supervised properly. But often in the spirit of competition, adults who should know better, channel the aggressive nature of the teen and add to it by giving them steroids, or weight loss drugs which only add to the overstimulated teen mind.

To recognize early if your child has an anger problem, it helps to know their hobbies and interests. Their music can change; drawings can get more violent or dark in nature. Watch, and learn about your teenagers. Take the time to ask them about their hobbies in a non-judgmental way.

Be genuinely interested in what they are doing. Don’t always be a “judging parent” with a negative opinion on everything they do. Be there for them and when they are ready, and you will be one of the ones they turn to for help when they need it. Don’t be afraid or too proud to tell your kids that they hurt you.

They are so busy trying to get through their day that they may not realize it. And we are going into this discussion believing that your teen loves you. It doesn’t matter if they say they “hate you”. Get involved with their lives. You have plenty of time to be the best bowler or dart thrower after they are on their own.

They just feel better about their chances to take care of them, themselves. You see your teens don’t want you to fight their battles for them; they want to do it themselves. They just get frustrated when they can’t.

Sometimes rest, good food and exercise is all they need to go out and take another stab at life and see if they can make it through another day. Because that is what every parent really wants. For their child, teen or even adult child to get through another day and live one more day, giving it all that they have. Because they see you do it.

And even though they will deny it, your children wouldn’t hate it if they could handle their life pretty much like you do. That is your reward and the ultimate compliment. And that is the way civilization has endured for a long time.