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Harmonizing Your Blended Family

Blended FamilyIn a family, sometime a separation is inevitable. This can happen either because of a divorce or death. It is always a sad thing to see the children must separated from the parent that they love. Fortunately many of those single families are lucky enough to be able finding other partner to form a new relationship and start a new family. And sometimes parenting to unify the children that come from mix family is challenging task and require hard work from the parent. This is because the children may raised with different tradition, attitude and discipline.

Bonding with your spouse children

Getting close to your spouse children is the important key in harmonizing your mix or blended family. Unfortunately sometime it is not easy to get close and bonding your spouse children. The children naturally will are more attaching to their natural parents. Many of them even reject their parent new spouse as they feel you are trying to replace their own parent.

You need to communicate and make your spouse children understand that you are not a replacement for their parent. Ask your spouse help to get closer to his or her children. Make a time to bonding and spending time with your spouse children with and without your spouse. This can help building a communication and relationship between your spouse children and you as their new parent, by letting both parties knows and understand about each other little by little. This will take time, patience and communication to get close to your spouse children.

Setting up the common discipline

Both parents must setting up the common rules and discipline for the children from both family. Therefore there are no children that feel disadvantages and unfair from the rules. To setting up the rules both parent must respect to their new spouse previous family dynamics, rules and tradition, then discuss the rules that can be applied to their children.

Both parents must commit to apply those rules accordingly. For transition period before the children are close to their new parent, parent can let their spouse to discipline their own children.

 

Step parenting is not a simple task; it will need your patience and determination. But with your compassion, love and your understanding you may be able to gain their respect and able to build a harmonize family with your blended family.

Taking Violin Lesson At Your Home

It is one of parent duty to provide proper education for their children. The best way to do it is by entering them to regular school education or home schooling education. With good education, the children will develop, trained and enhance their knowledge, interest and skill. Therefore they will have better chance to facing and overcome their own future. 

Taking violin lesson 

Beside taking the main course education such as school the children can also taking to many difference course that suits to their interest, talent and skill. For example you can develop your children skill in music by entering them to music course such as violin lesson. There are many good violin tutors that give violin lesson to people who are interested in this instrument. Whether they do an one on one private lesson or with many participants in course.  

Some of them are even use the technology to teach their pupil by using online or violin video lesson. Therefore the hindrance of strict time schedule and distance location are eliminated and people can learn violin at home in their own free time. It takes determination to become eloquent with this music instrument, therefore violin lesson is also a good way to train and build patient, confident and discipline.

7 Lessons Every Nanny Can Borrow from Mary Poppins

Mary Poppins & ChildcareFirst things first: Mary Poppins sets a pretty high bar. Whether you’re talking about the Disney musical from 1964 or the series of books that ran from the 1930s to the 1980s, she’s pretty much the gold standard for a magical childcare character. The movie alone has helped raise several generations; is there anybody who doesn’t know the tune to “A Spoonful of Sugar”?

Beyond all the magic, though, there are some important lessons that non-magical nannies can take away from the story. (For the purposes of the list, we’ll be relying on the Julie Andrews version.) Take a look:

Set clear boundaries.

Mary Poppins was a friend to the children in her care when they didn’t have any, but she was also very clearly in charge. She directed their days and nights, taught them to clean their room and made sure they understood that she had a job to do. When you’re dealing with your own charges, it’s important to make sure they know that, while you can be very friendly, you’re still in a position of authority. You’re there to care for them, and that doesn’t just mean giving comfort and support. It often means looking like the bad guy when it’s time to get work done.

Work with the parents.

On a related note: you’re there to help the family, and that means working with the parents. Mary Poppins provided a bit of a disruption in the Banks household, but her goal wasn’t to undermine their authority; it was to help them grow closer to their children. To that end, it’s important to remember to work with the parents and regularly talk about your goals for discipline, health, education and so on. If you wind up contradicting parental directives — say, if the parents ask you to limit the kids’ TV viewing but you leave the set on all day — you could cause a rift in the family’s relationship and make the children feel confused about whose rules they need to follow.

Stress the importance of education.

Mary Poppins taught her charges how to keep a clean house, cope with life lessons and spell what’s got to be the longest word ever used in a musical. You should do the same (except for the cartoon derby). Talk with the parents about their children’s education and any goals the parents have, and incorporate things like reading and healthy play into your schedule. Take trips to local museums, art fairs and historical sites.

Remember that health is vital.

Treats are well and good — and you should always communicate with the parents about what you are and aren’t allowed to let the kids eat — but, like Mary Poppins, you should remember that an important part of childcare is instilling healthy habits in the children. Healthy snacks, regular exercise, plenty of good playtime, proper amounts of TV, etc.: it all helps underscore how children can learn to take care of themselves. If you’re looking for recipe advice, this gallery from Parenting.com is a great place to start.

Encourage imagination.

This one’s obvious, right? Mary Poppins took her children to magical places, and she encouraged them to get out of the glum day-to-day routines they’d created and see the fun in life. She even had a song about turning chores into games. As you work with children, no matter their age, you should do all you can to encourage them to use their imagination as they work and play. Playing make-believe isn’t just for fun, either. Imagination has been shown to boost social skills, enhance language skills and even help children work through their fears.

Know your role.

At the end of Mary Poppins, Mary leaves. Her time with the family has drawn to a close, and the job she was hired to do has ended. Your job likely won’t be quite like that, but this lesson is really about knowing your role within the household. You’re a professional caregiver, but you’re also there to support the family; you’re devoted to your charges, but you should also be aware enough of your goals and their development to realize when it’s time to move on. Work with the parents to make sure everyone’s needs are being met — yours and theirs — and know that, sooner or later, you’ll be moving on.

Have fun.

As often as possible. Mary’s biggest lesson to her household was about the importance of fun, from energetic and healthy play to building lasting relationships. She was about joy, more than anything else, and that’s a role you’re uniquely qualified to play as a childcare provider. Being a nanny is hard; harder than most people know or could ever guess. But the key to succeeding at it is to have fun doing it, and to take pleasure in the job itself. It’ll rub off on the kids.