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Harmonizing Your Blended Family

Blended FamilyIn a family, sometime a separation is inevitable. This can happen either because of a divorce or death. It is always a sad thing to see the children must separated from the parent that they love. Fortunately many of those single families are lucky enough to be able finding other partner to form a new relationship and start a new family. And sometimes parenting to unify the children that come from mix family is challenging task and require hard work from the parent. This is because the children may raised with different tradition, attitude and discipline.

Bonding with your spouse children

Getting close to your spouse children is the important key in harmonizing your mix or blended family. Unfortunately sometime it is not easy to get close and bonding your spouse children. The children naturally will are more attaching to their natural parents. Many of them even reject their parent new spouse as they feel you are trying to replace their own parent.

You need to communicate and make your spouse children understand that you are not a replacement for their parent. Ask your spouse help to get closer to his or her children. Make a time to bonding and spending time with your spouse children with and without your spouse. This can help building a communication and relationship between your spouse children and you as their new parent, by letting both parties knows and understand about each other little by little. This will take time, patience and communication to get close to your spouse children.

Setting up the common discipline

Both parents must setting up the common rules and discipline for the children from both family. Therefore there are no children that feel disadvantages and unfair from the rules. To setting up the rules both parent must respect to their new spouse previous family dynamics, rules and tradition, then discuss the rules that can be applied to their children.

Both parents must commit to apply those rules accordingly. For transition period before the children are close to their new parent, parent can let their spouse to discipline their own children.

 

Step parenting is not a simple task; it will need your patience and determination. But with your compassion, love and your understanding you may be able to gain their respect and able to build a harmonize family with your blended family.

Taking The Responsibility In Children Education

educating children

As parents and guardians of our children, it is our duty and responsibility to ensure that they receive the proper educations. Although we can fully handling our children education by ourselves that does not mean that we can put all the responsibility to educate our children to someone else such as school teacher. Our involvement in educating our children can become the important key to develop and bring out their potential.

The first teacher that a child has is their parents or guardians. They teach the children how to walk, talk and behave while the children are growing. Therefore they also can involve in their children further education to ensure the children success, both in school and life.

Parent’s involvement in children school education

There are many things that parents can do to support and encourage their children education. Many thing around the house and environment that can become education material such as doing some activities that can be done together, playing, house chores, singing, reading activities and many more. Therefore the parents do not have to particularly provide special time to educate their children at home.

And parents can also support their children education from school from home. They can talk about the school, helping with their task once in a while, providing study material such as books, listening and discussing to their trouble at school, develop the habit of regular study and homework. These supports can help the children to improve their learning ability in school.

Parents can also participate in school activities such as chaperone, sport activities, school events, or joining the teacher and parents’ association. In this matter parents need to provide special time for these activities. Therefore for some parents such as single parents may be only able to spare a little time for it such as attending to a school event.

It would be better if the parents can establish a relationship or communication with the teachers. Therefore they can exchange information regarding the children, so there will be mutual understanding about the children, so the parents will not blindly defend or accusing their children completely when there is a trouble without understanding and knowing all the facts.

 

It is not easy to be responsible parents or guardians; it will take a lot of your patience and time. But it is a necessary effort and sacrifice to help and develop the children potential and enhance the relationship between parents and their children until the end of time.

Naughty Children

Many children have difficulty to communicate to their parents so many of them will acting up since they have unmet needs or unhappy feeling which they are trying to said to their parents.

Misbehavior’s can be caused by plenty of stuff. This could be just from mimicking the parents behavior or they acting up to get what they wants. the common reason for their numerous misbehavior is for their need for attention and acceptance. When a child doesn’t get accepted socially, they will express their disappointment with misbehavior. So if a child doesn’t get positive attention, then they will keep put on an effort to get it, even dough they will get the negative attention by misbehaving. How to know about this? Well, if your children have been acting up more and lately you’ve been particularly busy, this could be a hint.

You have to consistently show your attention and love to your kid a couple times a day. Leave whatever you are doing at the time, pick them up and sit them on your lap. Make an eye contact when you talk to them and reassure them by mentioning their name. You have to maintain the relationship with your children by hearing to what they need to say to you, ask questions, be understanding, patient, and try to stimulate them mentally. Express sincere interest about what they saying to you. If you think they need more reinforcement, spend some time with them. Each child requires some attention focused solely on them each day.