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Children Self Esteem

Children Self EsteemAs parent, you may ever battling with child self esteem. Child self esteem is quite fragile, especially when they are entering the adolescence stage. This is because they become more aware about their physical appearances, they usually identify their existence on how are they appear in front of their friend and other people. Failing in appearance may make them become embarrass and humiliated.

 

Parent’s opinion

At this point, usually the parent’s opinion might have become less meaningful in the children eyes. The reassuring word of encouragement or support is no longer enough to make them comfortable and confident as when they are just little children. Then you probably wondering what can you do to improve their child self esteem in a healthy manners and behavior.

Improving the child self esteem

To improve the child self esteem, an experience psychologist Christina McCann from New York State, suggesting the parents to follow these tips;

Accepting their child appearances just what they are. Avoid being critical regardless their outside appearance such as their fashion styles, or dyeing their hair.

Support their best side and express it vocally.

Try to spend one on one quality time as much as they can.

If you live separately, parent should establish communication as much as they can by sending them mails or by phone.

 

When adolescence child or teens self esteem is damage, it can make them fall into depression. This situation can be indicate by these symptoms; lack of energy, hard to concentrate, irregular sleeping patterns, behavior changes, especially towards their parents and become uncontrollable and annoying. And if this behavior continues, you should consider to visiting specialist that can handle teenage or adolescence child problems.

Recognizing the Teen Relationships

Teen RelationshipsMany people when they think of the word relationship automatically equate it to love or sexual relationship. According to the general definition of relationship this is any connection between two or more elements and these elements can be anything from chemical substances to human beings. So from this definition it is simple to deduct the meaning of this word applied to human beings. A teen relationship can be any kind of relationship

Between teens of the same gender

Between teens of the opposite gender, like boyfriend girlfriend relationships

Between teens and other persons of the same or different gender and different age.

The quality of these relationships can also vary, but there are two kinds of teenager relationships I’m going to talk about here;

Teen friendships and

Teen love relationships

Teen Friendships

This kind of teenager relationship will fit into all three categories above. It can exist between a teenager and other persons of same or different gender and age. A good friend – no matter age or gender – is one of the best things you can have on this earth. A really good friend that is special to you and means much to you. A person that is always there for you.

Many successful love relationships has started with friendship and this is probably the reason for its success. The better you know the other person, the better you’ll go along with him or her and in a long lasting love relationship – as man and woman – your appreciation of your partner as a friend will mean much more than anything else.

If we look at it from the other end, it seems much more difficult to build a friendship from a love or sexual relationship. In fact, I have not heard about it, maybe you have but the point is that a good friendship is always good to have both as a basis of a future love relationship and as a friendship by itself.

A teenage friendship can exist between anyone no matter what gender, age, race, background or whatever. A 13 year old girl and a 50 year old man can have a great and even lifelong friendship together as well as two teenagers of the same gender.

Teen love relationships

While you can talk quite frankly and straight forward in a friendship most of us are more aware of not hurting the partner in a love relationship. This can evolve to a degree of lies and even no communication at all just to protect your partner.

There are also more mutual expectations in a love relationship and more intimate emotions are involved than in a good friendship. A teen love relationship can be great and long lasting but if there is no basis of friendship in it the probability of sustaining it is significantly lower.

There are some legally defined limitations with regards to who can go into a teen love or sexual relationship. It is illegal for people of 18 years and above to have a sexual relation to a minor but it is definitely not illegal to have older friends.

A good friendship is one of the best gifts God has provided our lives with and even if you marry the sweetest boy or girl in the world, neither of you will be happy if you aren’t good friends.

Helping Your Teens to Get Through Their Anger Phase

Teens AngerHormones in the teenager are raging out of control and to have a teenager who seems always to be in control is not necessarily good. In the seventies, it was common for parents to have a heavy handed approach to their children. If their teen showed anger in a particular situation it was a given that the parent would admonish them to “control yourself” or “turn that frown upside-down” as if the teen could turn the feeling on and off like a faucet.

To make matters worse, parents who were fortunate enough to get their children to talk, would then belittle them with statements like “that’s nothing, when I was your age…” This wasn’t then, nor is it now, anything that a teenager wants to hear. Knowing what causes teens to be angry is one thing, but we need to learn how our teen expresses their anger early in its development.

Some teens join violent sports teams or roughhouse with friends. This lets the aggression out in a safe way if it is supervised properly. But often in the spirit of competition, adults who should know better, channel the aggressive nature of the teen and add to it by giving them steroids, or weight loss drugs which only add to the overstimulated teen mind.

To recognize early if your child has an anger problem, it helps to know their hobbies and interests. Their music can change; drawings can get more violent or dark in nature. Watch, and learn about your teenagers. Take the time to ask them about their hobbies in a non-judgmental way.

Be genuinely interested in what they are doing. Don’t always be a “judging parent” with a negative opinion on everything they do. Be there for them and when they are ready, and you will be one of the ones they turn to for help when they need it. Don’t be afraid or too proud to tell your kids that they hurt you.

They are so busy trying to get through their day that they may not realize it. And we are going into this discussion believing that your teen loves you. It doesn’t matter if they say they “hate you”. Get involved with their lives. You have plenty of time to be the best bowler or dart thrower after they are on their own.

They just feel better about their chances to take care of them, themselves. You see your teens don’t want you to fight their battles for them; they want to do it themselves. They just get frustrated when they can’t.

Sometimes rest, good food and exercise is all they need to go out and take another stab at life and see if they can make it through another day. Because that is what every parent really wants. For their child, teen or even adult child to get through another day and live one more day, giving it all that they have. Because they see you do it.

And even though they will deny it, your children wouldn’t hate it if they could handle their life pretty much like you do. That is your reward and the ultimate compliment. And that is the way civilization has endured for a long time.